How to Communicate When You are Angry

It happens to all of us at various times in our lives. Even the calmest, most peace-loving amongst us will face circumstances where we are angry and frustrated with someone (or with a situation) and we are struggling to communicate productively. Here are a few tips to help.

Stop. If you get really angry about something, stop, take a step back and breathe. Give yourself time to calm down by watching TV, talking to a friend, playing a video game, taking a walk, listening to some music or whatever helps you relax. Taking a break can keep the situation from getting worse.

Think. After you’re no longer upset, think about the situation and why you got so angry. Was it how your partner spoke or something they did? Figure out the real problem then think about how to explain your feelings.

Talk. Finally, talk to your partner and when you do, follow the tips above.

Listen. After you tell your partner how you feel, remember to stop talking and listen to what they have to say. You both deserve the opportunity to express how you feel in a safe and healthy environment.

Communicating isn’t always easy. At first, some of these tips may feel unnatural or awkward, but they will help you communicate better and build a healthy relationship.